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Dating is a fun and exciting experience. Nothing can be more thrilling than getting to know someone and realizing you’re falling in love with them. Though most women won’t admit it, we really do want our Prince Charming and our knight in shining armor. But even more so, we want to fall in love with someone who will be our best friend and lover for the rest of our lives.

Unfortunately, from time to time in the dating world, we come across men who make bad partners. Maybe red flags go up and we don’t notice them? Or maybe we do notice them, but chose to ignore them? Whatever the case may be, it’s important for women to be able to identify the types of guys that they should avoid and never date.

There are 20 types of guys that women should steer clear of. Let’s take a look at the list of 20 men that women should never date and see why the relationship with them would never work.

The Types of Men Who Are Preoccupied with You

“True love is eternal, infinite, and always like itself. It is equal and pure without violent demonstrations.” -Honore de Balzac

The relationship problem with these first five men is because they are preoccupied with you. Whether it’s what you’re doing, where you’re going, or who you’re with, these first five guys are types of guys to avoid.

The first five types of men to never date are:

• The Control Freak
• The Abuser
• The Leech
• The Possessive
• The Faultfinder

Let’s take a closer look at them.

The Control Freak: The Control Freak is a man who wants things his way or the highway. He’s known to be cheap and refuses to listen to alternative ideas. He does everything the same way every time and hates surprises and spontaneity. He’s fearful of losing money or – worse yet – you. He’s a negative and miserable complainer and his answer to every question is often “no”. Women should never date these guys.

The Abuser: While this may seem obvious, you’d be surprised how many women ignore the red flags they see and excuse their man’s unhealthy, cruel, and dangerous behavior for the sake of “love”. The Abuser is usually a reactor – not a responder. He’s hypersensitive and may often seem like he’s two different people. He can be cruel to children and/or animals and can be threatening. His actions oftentimes don’t seem appropriate for the situation as he is prone to explode and go overboard. If you think you’re in a relationship with an abuser, ask yourself: “Does he get angry at little things? Is he mean with his words? Does he get physical by hitting things, throwing things, or breaking things?” Being in a relationship with an abuser is a dangerous place to be so leave this relationship as soon as you can. (If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship, there’s help available! Visit The National Domestic Violence Hotline or call 1-800-799-7233.)

The Leech: Being around a leech is like trying to get white cat hair off a black suit. The Leech is desperate, needy, and dependent. He’s overly emotional and overly sensitive and does not have a high self-esteem. He’s insecure and needs constant reassurance. He has to be around you all the time and doesn’t like to be away from you (God forbid you want to go out with friends and family). He wants your attention all the time and is extremely high maintenance. He’s fearful without you, depressed without you, and claims he would die without you. The Leech is definitely a guy to avoid!

The Possessive: We all have seen movies about women who are trapped in relationships with men like this. The possessive types are jealous, forceful, have unrealistic expectations, try to isolate you, and blame you for their problems or feelings. They tend to threaten you and won’t let you go anywhere. They check up on you, give you the 5th degree, and don’t like your friends or family. The Possessive types are definitely kinds of guys to never date.

The Faultfinder: This kind of guy is one who enjoys pointing out the bad in you and thrives on showing you all of your mistakes. The phrase “I told you so” is never far from his lips. He has a tendency to always question you and takes sides with other people over you – even against you. These types of men say things that make you feel stupid or guilty about what you do and say. They never offer you compliments because they are intentionally looking for error. Never date these kinds of men!

The Types of Men Who Are Preoccupied with Themselves

“Immature love says ‘I love you because I need you.’ Mature love says ‘I need you because I love you.'” -Erich Fromm

The relationship problem with these next six men is because they are preoccupied with themselves. These men think more of themselves and more about themselves than they do you or other people.

The next six kinds of guys to avoid are:

• The Indifferent
• The Liar
• The Narcissist
• The Immature
• The Unstable
• The Uncommunicative

Let’s examine these six types a bit more closely.

The Indifferent: This type of guy is often boring, leaving you to question whether he likes you or not. He talks, but he never acts. He uses you for as long as you allow and doesn’t care about you one way or the other because he doesn’t actually need you. Your relationship with him is on again, off again. One moment he says you’re the one for him and the next, he’s confused and doesn’t know how he feels. He doesn’t buy you flowers or dinner and your relationship lacks spontaneity and surprise. Your relationship is just not progressing and has no chance of survival.

The Liar: It may take time to find out if this is the kind of guy you’re dating, but as soon as you know – run! He tells white lies and justifies them. He offers excuses instead of explanations. He is manipulating and, oftentimes, you can’t get a hold of him. He’s secretive and will make you feel bad or guilty if you say you can’t or don’t trust him. You find you doubt him more often than you trust him; you recognize his pattern of defensiveness anytime you confront him about your doubts or the inconsistencies in his stories.

The Narcissist: The actions and behaviors of a narcissist are motivated by a desire for you to think well of him and not necessarily motivated becuse he thinks well of you. There’s no space in the relationship for you because it’s all about him. Your needs would never be met while in a relationship with a narcissist as they are selfish, inconsiderate, and self-absorbed kinds of people. So don’t give The Narcissist type the time of day – they are already giving themselves too much of it anyway.

The Immature: The immature guy is a guy that you will tire of really quickly. This type of guy either makes a big deal out of everything or a joke out of everything. They throw a tantrum if they don’t get their way. They make foolish choices and display stupid behavior. They depend on you to meet their adult responsibilities (e.g. bills, housework, laundry, chores, etc.) They are often unemployed and constantly party. They are cheesy, socially awkward, and embarrassing to be around. So, it would be a mature decision for you to avoid the immature.

The Unstable: The unstable man is an unpredictable one. Oftentimes, the unstable man struggles with alcohol, drugs, or is involved in criminal activity. He may have mental illnesses that he is not getting treatment for, leaving him sulking, depressed, moody, or – in short – out of control of his emotional and mental state. He’s unreliable and will often leave you on edge. His bad track record is a clear indicator of what your future with him will consist of if he doesn’t get help.

The Uncommunicative: The Uncommunicative is the man who often responds with “I dunno.” He doesn’t initiate conversation, ask questions, or answer questions with more than one or two word answers. The uncommunicative guy is not necessarily a shy guy and a shy guy is not necessarily an uncommunicative one. A shy guy will usually come out of his shell with some women, but an uncommunicative guy is just that – uncommunicative – regardless of who he speaks to. The uncommunicative guy is the one who sits behind his computer or in front of his TV, and never spends time with you to talk and see how your day was or share how his was. A relationship with this kind of guy never works and you’ll quickly find yourself lonely and frustrated.

The Types of Men Who Are Preoccupied with Other People

“Love is a gross exaggeration of the difference between one person and everybody else.” -George Bernard Shaw

Relationships with these five types of men is doomed from the start because they are always preoccupied with other people – people such as other women, family, or even strangers.

The next five types of guys to never date are:

• The Player
• The Rebounder
• The Married Guy
• The Mama’s Boy
• The Primadonna

Here’s why these five types of guys should be avoided.

The Player: Who wants to date a player? The Player is just that – someone who plays the dating game. They aren’t concerned about the relationship – they are concerned about the moment. Once you are out of sight, you are out of mind. These types are flirtatious and charming and are often cheaters. A lot of times, they are not trustworthy. They are motivated by what they can get from you; it’s about lust – not love. They lack respect for you and often brag about past romantic conquests. They are boorish individuals that you should avoid at all costs.

The Rebounder: He may be single, but is he ready? He broke up with his ex-girlfriend and then entered into a relationship with you so quickly that it’s difficult to tell if he wants to be in a relationship with you or just be in a relationship, period. If he entered into a relationship with you quickly, chances are he did not give himself any time to learn and grow from his breakup. The Rebounder is often in and out of relationships, without any time to be single in between.

The Married Guy: While this may seem like a no-brainer, don’t date a married guy! Even if he says that he’s legally separated, going through a divorce, etc. – it doesn’t matter. There’s no future with a married man until he is officially and formally single. He can’t be there for you and give the time and attention your relationship requires if he is distracted by the wife he still has. If he can’t commit 100% to you, why date him? He will always be distracted until he’s free. If a married guy is willing to cheat on his wife, he will be more than willing to cheat on someone who’s just a girlfriend.

The Mama’s Boy: There’s nothing wrong with loving your family, but when it out shines and outweighs the love you have for your partner, strife will likely be the result. A man can and should love his family, but he changes into a “mama’s boy” when he is still dependent on his family as an adult man. He needs to be loyal to you because the relationship between you is for a party of two – not for a party of two plus his family. You need to be his number one priority and not be left to play the roles of mommy, housekeeper, and mate. The Mama’s Boy can’t protect you and make you feel taken care of and safe when he still needs mama’s guidance and input. He is unable to tell his mama “no” and will often leave you in the dust to do his mother’s bidding. Don’t date The Mama’s Boy or you will feel like you are dating his mama, too.

The Primadonna: The Primadonna is almost impossible to relate to because of their giant ego and arrogant pride. They are often rude to everybody they meet because they consider themselves superior and so much better. Everyone else is beneath these types – even you. These types have no humility and are often extremely vain. They are concerned with their appearance and very consumed with themselves. They tend to habitually show-off and brag.

The Types of Men Who Are Preoccupied with Everything and Anything Else

“Any time not spent on love is wasted.” -Torquato Tasso

The last four of the 20 kinds of men to avoid and never date are preoccupied with everything and anything else.Things outside of the two of you are so much more important to him and they leave no room for your relationship to thrive.

The last four types of men that women should avoid are:

• The Workaholic
• The Deadbeat
• The Preacher
• The Dreamer

Let’s take a closer look at these four types.

The Workaholic: While there is nothing wrong with having a strong work ethic, there is something wrong when it’s the most important thing in life. The identity of The Workaholic is wrapped up in the job they have and the income they make. They are overly ambitious and are never there to be supportive of you because they are always doing something work-related. They are often distant. You want someone who has balance in their life and gives healthy amounts of time to all areas of his life so as to nurture who he is. The amount of time he dedicates to each life area shows his awareness of his priorities and where you fit on that list.

The Deadbeat: A frustrated sigh is inevitable when you hear about deadbeat guys! These types have no ambition or motivation to improve their life. They are lazy and have no purpose for their life. So if The Deadbeat can’t identify the purpose for his life, he certainly can’t identify the purpose for having you in it. You can’t take care of him and be his mama for the rest of his life. The Deadbeat is often unemployed. He is often irresponsible and apathetic – he just doesn’t care. He would rather sit at home and be a couch potato. If The Deadbeat doesn’t care about themselves, why would they care about you?

The Preacher: The Preacher is always right. He’s scornful and may even be the type that abhors drinking and smoking. He has no humility and can’t learn anything new because he thinks he is always right, thus making everyone else wrong. He’s condescending and patronizing and always corrects you. His bossy and judgmental attitude are difficult to deal with as is his constant “preaching”. He is self-righteous and argumentative, constantly debating people to prove his point. He can’t admit when he is wrong and does not respond well to criticism. Don’t hook up with the preacher or you’ll be praying for an escape route.

The Dreamer: The Dreamer lives his life in the clouds where everything is perfect. He tells you how someday you’ll get married, have kids, and live in a suburban home with a white picket fence. The Dreamer is not realistic or grounded about life and rarely acknowledges problems or struggles. He believes nothing bad will ever happen and he refuses to accept the truth if it’s negative or difficult. He wishes for things and hopes for things, but he’s all words and no action. You might quickly lose your patience with The Dreamer and find yourself frustrated, left alone to figure out solutions to problems yourself.

Conclusion

“Choose your love; love your choice.” -Thomas S. Monson

Most people want to experience the magic of falling in love and having a special relationship with someone who makes them feel valuable, cherished, and more important than anybody else. Give healthy, long-lasting love a chance and never date these 20 kinds of men. Avoid these types of guys and “purposely choose your love so you can love your choice.”